The Bachelor's Karma

I was never attracted to the ABC show, "The Bachelor" until this year. A single Dad named Jason gained millions of sympathizers when he was dumped by the woman he claimed he fell in love with on the last "Bachelorette" show.

The producers gave him not just a second shot at love, but about about twenty dating opportunities that moved in together and shared a house in L.A. Ladies from all different backgrounds and ages and vied for Jason's attention, hoping to be his "one." For the first time in the series, this bachelor fell in love with not just one woman, but two.

What followed was an emotional television confession when he realized the woman he chose to propose to on the show, Melissa, was not the right woman for him. Melissa was crushed and hurt and Jason's rebound, Molly, was relieved but cautious.

Many audience members angrily judged Jason demanding to know how he could hurt the two woman after the painful rejection he experienced on the Bachelorette. He not only was he rejected then but he mentioned in the first show that his first wife left him for another man. So Jason has had this history of attracting women who ended up abandoning him for someone else.

So what was going on in this love triangle? An opportunity for forgiveness and compassion, which provided Jason a chance to heal karma. Jason was put in similar shoes to the women who had hurt him in the past, and from this personal experience he could forgive them easier by truly understanding how painful it is to feel you have to choose between two people you love. The women who had hurt him hadn't done it intentionally, just as Jason didn't set out to fall in love with two women or hurt anyone.

These three souls, Jason, Molly and Melissa, do have a past life connection which left Melissa in a vulnerable position because Jason and Molly were closer in spirit. Melissa wanted to know why she had a consistent pattern of men "dumping" her, which continued with Jason. There are several reasons. One is because she has a lot of restlessness and instability resonating in her energy field which eventually scares men off. They don't feel they could ever satisfy her or truly make her happy. She also has some negative energies around her that may be creating feelings of moodiness, irritation, anger, desperation and neediness that turn men off.

My message to Melissa is how much I admire the graceful manner in which she handled the painful situation and refer her to the proper healer who could help heal her heart, raise her self-esteem and break the cycle of break-ups which would help her attract and maintain a healthy, functional and happy relationship.

As for Jason and Molly, I see them together maybe three months before the initial highs wear off and Molly realizes she doesn't feel at home in Seattle, away from her family and isn't ready for the responsibility to be a step-mom. Jason will feel hurt again, and may develop some bitterness as he wonders why he can't find a woman mature enough to commit and be his wife.

For future dating potentials, I would definitely advise Jason to date older, not younger. Someone who is experienced with life and has the level of empathy, maturity, understanding and responsibility that he needs will make a lasting partner.

Blessings, peace and happiness to them all.

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